I'm looking for any and all advice. This is for a friend.
My friend has a 13 year old step daughter. Her husband, the step daughter's dad, recently got full custody (legal and physical). Long story short, her mom is incarcerated for drugs and she also let their daughter miss a lot of school. Step daughter's grandfather (mom's dad) threatened my friend's husband and told him that he will be taking him to court for visitation. I don't know if he will/can be granted grandparents rights because her mom still technically gets visitation (supervised). Either way... we've come to an interesting finding. The grandfather's soon to be ex messaged my friend and told her about all the evil scheming going on in that family. She said that they tell the girl to pretend that she is sick and miss school so that they can use it against them. They've made her write a letter to the judge to say she wants to live with them. They say that they are going to buy her a bunch of things like clothes, etc and say that they have to provide it because her dad can't. They reward her keeping quiet by not making her do chores and buying her "stuff." They also bought her a phone and iPad and are trying to use that against her dad, too. They tell her to put a lock on the phone and delete any texts they exchange. What I told my friend - get a no contact order against the grandfather for the time being. This is clearly mental abuse/brainwashing. Next, send the phone and iPad back to her grandfather via certified mail. Then, get her into counseling. I told her to approach her step from a place of love, and not to lose her cool and get upset because that will only push her away. Also, the grandfather a couple months ago poured anti freeze into their gas tank and they had to pay nearly 600 to get it fixed. Her grandfather also buys her Victoria Secret underwear and bras... I understand it's nice to have underwear that make you feel confident, but from what I understand, this stuff is a little "too sexy" for a 13 year old...... Anyways, ladies, any advice is appreciated .
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