I've been with my husband for six years & have gotten really close with his daughter, my stepdaughter over the years, through deployments I've moved up to where her mom was & she was super nice, she let my stepdaughter live with me while I was up there. It was cordial with my stepdaughters mom , but we were by no means hanging out together. & she respected that. Anyways, since my husband got back from deployment & we moved away, we found out that her mom was in an abusive relationship with multiple boys, so we sat down & said that we need to have my stepdaughter for a while until you get your feet on the ground. She said no way, so we had court papers filed & we had a strong case bc my stepdaughter saw all the abuse & was even involved with its so when her mom found out what we were doing she said my stepdaughter could move down to school with us & stay the summer, & all we care about was my stepdaughters safety, not custody or child support, so we said okay & then when school came around & my stepdaughter still wanted to live with us she was like um no she can't live there, my husband was going on underways & so she didn't want my stepdaughter to have to live with me (he was gonna be gone a total of two months the whole school year) well, my stepdaughter lived with me five days a week for a year so I don't see the problem? So after that we just dropped it bc we wanted to still be able to contact the daughter. Well the daughters mom called up my husband & asked if she could move down here & create a life here with us & he said he'd love to have his daughter here, but we're not interested in being a "family" with you to where you come over multiple times a week for dinner & for us to always be there for you. We'll always be there for the daughter, but not you. So she acted like it didn't bother her, & ever since then, she's tried to cause problems in mine & my husbands relationship & has kept my stepdaughter from talking to me. I've tried calling/texting 25 times the past month & a half & have received nothing back, I miss my stepdaughter & idk what to do. She's 8 so I've known her since she was two. I love her like my own. I'd like to think after 7 years she'd be over him... Could I be wrong? Idk why she's salty about us wanting to be there for my stepdaughter but not wanting to have play dates with her other kids or hangout like we're a family. I need advice. Thank you
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