My SD 9 has lived with my husband and I for almost 2 years. Her mom was strung out really bad and eventually was found guilty of 5 different possession with intent to sell charges. She was sentenced to 20 years in prison. However 18 of those years were suspended, she will get out of jail in Nov. My husband has joint custody but it is listed with the BM has having physical custody. My husband and I are not trying to keep my SD away from BM but we want to protect her from the craziness that BM brings. Since being with us, her grades and behaviors have drastically improved. BM loves her daughter but has put SD in some horrible situations throughout her short life. Will a motion to amend custody requesting physical custody be awarded to my husband fix this situation? Should we file for sole custody? Is there anyway for me as her step mom to be included on custody to help with medical/school decisions? Advice please
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Sooo I need some advice.. for the last 3 years baby mama has been terrible when it came to communication, visitation, and child support. She has told us on multiple occasions I was irrelevant to her and she won't ever acknowledge me I. Her daughter's life... I was fine with that. Just recently she sent us a message asking to speak with my at our next visitation that she wanted is to apologize and start over. So we agreed to sit and hear her out. She apologized for everything and said she wanted to build a relationship with me to have a better foundation for my step daughter.. we exchanged numbers we've talked as what seemed like friends, and she's invited us out, shes offered to hang out and so on.. as much as I love how great this seems and how this could only mean food things for us and visitation with my step daughter I'm hesitant to think she has other plans in mind... She's opened up alot to us on a personal level, and we are seeing my step daughter more, so i don't see what real benefit she's getting..so I am super confused on how to react to this new relationship..
Ok so here's the deal my husband parents are divorced and are both remarried. On my husbands side alone my step son has a Granny, Grandpa, Meme, Papaw (name), then great grand parents Grandma (last name), Grandpa (last name). On BM side he has a Nana and a Papaw (straight Papaw no name added) and his great grand parents but I can't remember what he calls them. My stepson has been calling my parents Papaw (name), and Gigi. No big deal everyone has a name right? WRONG! I'm 9 months pregnant with my parents first grand child and my first child. From the start my mom has hated Gigi after going through everything we could think of that's the only one that she remotely considered because frankly everything else was taken and now that's what my step son knows her as. My dad it's not so bad he's just Papaw (name) and that's fine and dandy. This may be weird but I'm an animal person and when I used to take my dogs over I would refer to my parents as Nana and Papaw never really thought anything of it I never wanted real kids anyway, then bam I met my husband 2 1/2 years ago fell in love with him and his little dude and I'm now preggers. My mom made a comment last night that she doesn't like Gigi and all of the good names are taken and that she loves my stepson very much (which she does no doubt about that) but this is her first grand baby and never thought she would be called Gigi she would prefer Nana or something different. WHAT DO I DO?!?!?! I don't want to confuse the poor kid anymore I mean he's just 4. However I understand how my mom feels also any advise? Please help my baby is due like any day and I know she won't be speaking any time soon but really feel if we are gonna change a name it needs to be quick. Thanks in advance!
It is good to listen to what children want, but what they want is not always best or realistic. You should not let her stay in your home. She is an adult and it is not your responsibility to plan her accommodations for her visit. You could be nice and recommend a couple of hotels or a good travel booking website, be courteous but don't get overly involved in the details. Your focus should be more on SD's schedule for the visit, when will she be picked up and dropped off, etc...
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